One of the traditions from China is that parents usually want their son or daughter to marry at very early age. This custom is passed down for hundreds or thousands of years. People regard marriage as one of the most important thing in their whole life. Besides, parents will deal with all those all those trifles for their children, including choose their mates. Then, if you refuse to accept their arrangement for you, that’s great disrespect and disobedience to the older.
As times goes by, some old costumes have faded away, but the importance of marriage has been deeply rooted in our mind. When people who are over thirty or forty years old without being married, they will start to panic and eagerly to find someone else to marry with. People act like this only to fulfill others expectation, like their parents or kinsman. However, having this kind of decision in a haste easily leads to some bad endings, or divorce.
From long time ago, our ancestors came out some thoughts about men and women’s duty, what kinds of characteristics they should have and what part they play in this big society. Those notions somehow turn out to be some kinds of stereotype. From then on, most of us think this pattern is absolutely right and judge our conduct by that. In those rules, men work outside to support the family, and women should stay at home concentrating on housework and dealing with their kids. If thinking that his wife does something bad, the husband can ask she to go home and never come back.
Differ from ancient times, people’s life and values have been changed a lot. Today women have their own career and think more extensively about their future. These alterations make us rethink the necessity of marriage.
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I think you write well because of comparision between modern and ancient time. In my opinion, maybe you can look for other countries' law about your topic to support your point of view.By the way, I like your topic very much.
I agree with your opinion about the marriage. It's a very common situation that many people took it too serious. It'll be more definite if you can add some actual examples of supporting the career women who are free from marriage.
Your article make me think of Pride and Prejudice. The five sisters ought to marry some highly estimable men to lead their lives if their father died. (but Jane Austen and her sister never got married )And the same case in John Gay's THE BEGGAR"S OPERA. Peachum decides who her daughter is going to marry (a richer guy). Sounds sad, isn't it?
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